The Question of Older Men

When I was in my twenties I would have not even considered dating some one over five years older than me. But when you get older, the prospects get less good and you suddenly start to see around older, rather exiting men. Occasionally you look around and most men of my age are either not interested or not interesting and then you start looking towards older men.

Occasionally men make younger impression they actually are, because of their energetic nature and it takes time to find their true age. Then there are men like Robert Redford, who until recently made me think the idea of older men not being actually that bad. If I’d need to choose between interesting guy about my age and one seriously older, I’d probably choose the one of my own age, but unfortunately my potential choices are usually not that good.

It is not easy. If one use at least little brains and has at least moderate mathematical skills, one can soon count. When I am 50, he is 70, help. I know it’ll take 20 years to reach there, but hey I am a planner: the day will finally arrive. I might need to nurse my mother, but I’ve never been planning to nurse my husband, when I am in my 50s (so I would not necessary need to if he is only in his 70s, but the likelihood is much higher than with the hubby in his 50s).

I have also never planned to become a young widow, which might also become reality as the average male don’t necessary live over 80 years age. The old age companion is one of my wishes. I have heard that there are much more women in the old-age home than men.

There is the question of being in the different phases of the life as well. If guy has already reached his late 40s without any significant relationship, he might be one of those eternal bachelors. On the other hand, if his been there and seen that, he might not be interested anymore. And if there are kids almost of your age they might feel uneasy about your relationship. He might also be the eternal bachelor (like George Clooney) and even then he would not be in same phase than you are. You might wish to change him with love, but we have all seen how well it usually succeeds.

In the question of children, there is new problem. Apparently oldern men are both less fertile than younger one, but also less likely to produce healthy babies. In fact it seems that over fifty year old dads are much more lickely to produce descendants that will one day suffer from bipolar disorder than younger dads. So not only might they not be interested in kids, they might also not be good for them either.

Yet there are the benefits of mans age. I might sound much too critical in here. He might be wiser, less critical (of my looks), more understanding on women (experience) and better established (no need to make career so ferwently and more time for hsi family). His expectations for the relationship would propably be more down to earth.

In my case the question was not totally academic one. I had a crush. Maybe I sometimes think about my love life too much with my brains. Yet this time also my guts said it would not work. So I showed him a cold shoulder. (Yet part of me wonders, if I’ll be sorry for this as an old spinster! – or  maybe not.) The end!